A Security Guard Told Me The Simple Secret To The Perfect Relationship

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What do you need to do to enjoy happy relationship and long fulfilling marriage? Are yo willing to do sacrifices for bigger happiness? Show love and appreciation. The secret to happy marriage.

Let me tell you a real story about what led me to the decision to wake up at 2:30 a.m. almost every morning so that I could have a better relationship with my partner.

I worked in a bank for almost 10 years. In the office I worked we had security guards.

The story I will tell you is about one of these security guards.

When I met him, he was almost 50 years old. My desk was the closest one to his, so we were talking a lot when there weren’t any clients in the office.

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After a few days working with this man, I noticed something different.

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He was always so happy when talking about his wife. They were texting all the time (don’t tell the boss); they were speaking over the phone a few times a day. When he was talking about her his face was getting brighter.

Honestly, I thought they were newlywed as this is how happy he was.

So, I asked him how long they’ve been married for.

He said – almost 30 years.

It didn’t make any sense!

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Married couples don’t act like that after 30 years. I know that! You know it too!

Yet, somehow they were together for 30 years, had two children and were still happy together.

Of course, I asked him!

And he told me their secret. 

He used to work in the army and the police for most of his adult life. His shifts were starting at different hours, and therefore, often he was waking up in the middle of the night to go to work.

His wife was waking up with him every time.

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Once the alarm goes off, she would get up with him, prepare breakfast and coffee for him and she would send him to work. Then she would go back to sleep. When he finishes work and go home, he would always find a warm meal waiting for him.

That’s it!

My jaw dropped. “That’s it? She cooks for you and wakes up in the middle of the night to make you a coffee?” I said believing he’s joking.

“Yes. That’s it,” he confirmed.

And then he explained further.

It’s not about the taste of the coffee and the fact there’s food prepared for him. It’s about what these actions represent – her love and care for him. It wasn’t about getting up in the middle of the night, but about doing this sacrifice that not many would do. It’s about spending a few moments with the other every morning and welcoming the day together.

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The warm meal was there for him not because “she’s the woman and has to cook for her man”, but because after a long stressful day at work the best thing when you come home is someone to welcome you, kiss you and give you a warm meal.

It’s care.

It’s love.

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The passion in his eyes and the warmth in his voice when talking about the woman he was sharing his life with for 30 years, made me promise myself this:

One day when I meet the man I will spend my life with, I will do that too.

I will wake up with him every morning to make him a coffee, kiss him and hug him before work and will tell him I love him.

This was more than 7 years ago.

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I met my fiancee less than 3 years ago, and after a few months of dating, we both knew that we want to spend our lives together. I moved in with him 3 months after we met and ever since I wake up with him every morning.

I make him a coffee, a light breakfast and prepare his launch box for work. Up until almost two months, he was waking up at 4 a.m. for work (starting work at 5 a.m.). For the last two months, he starts work at 3 a.m. and wakes up at 2:30 a.m. 

I always have the choice to stay in bed, and he wouldn’t mind it even for a second. I mean, why would anyone wake up at 2:30 a.m. just to make a coffee? But I made a promise that when I meet the person I will spend my life with, I will do my best to make him feel loved and appreciated.

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So I do it.

I am a full-time blogger, so I usually stay up and start work as well around 3:30 a.m. almost every time. It helps me catch up with many things during the day, but that’s not the reason I do it.

The reason is love.

I hate waking up in the middle of the night.  He hates it too. But I love being with him for 10 minutes at the beginning of the day, and he loves it too.

Our friends and relatives think I’m crazy.

But I’m just in love and want to make it last.

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